Let’s meet for coffee
Categories: Culture, Living our faithI saw a new blurb on Fox News this morning saying that for the first time ever, Starbucks is planning on closing some of its United States locations in the coming year. While I realize that as far as business models go this might make sense, in my heart of hearts I was saying “Not in my backyard! Don’t touch any of my spots!” Each of the Starbucks in my neighborhood have a different sense of community. Different people are attracted to them, and different converstions happen within them. Now I know, of course, that most of those meetings will merely shift to another location, but I still hope they don’t close any of “our” Starbucks!
All of this got me thinking about the implications of the phrase “Let’s meet for coffee.”
- Everyone knows the “Let’s meet for coffee.” has nothing to do with coffee. It’s a purely social connection.
- Third Place coffee shops are neutral territory — privacy in the middle of the public sphere.
- The degree of commitment implied with meeting for coffee is much less than sharing a meal. Food is a natural bonding agent that creates trust and community. Coffee, however, can be that first step toward real community in a non-threatening way.
- Coffee is a topic of conversation that — in the last 10 years anyway — can bring together complete strangers, saint and sinner alike.
- Scientific studies show that people are more receptive to new ideas after a cup of coffee, which explains all the business deals struck in Starbucks over a cup of java! This is also why I am so happy one of our church campuses allows people to bring their cup of coffee into the sanctuary with them. Finish that cup!
- A coffee cup in their hand makes people feel more at ease.
Even at Starbucks’ prices, that makes meeting for coffee a bargain that is hard to pass up!
If God’s church is to regain its influence in the world, we will have to get much more comfortable doing “our stuff” out there again. So this is what leaving is all about. Simply stated, it’s being “out there.” I’ve learned that if I stay in my office to study, nothing happens. But whenever I intentionally plant myself at a local hangout, I run into people and conversations start, and at the end of the day I know that something Kingdom oriented has happened.
– The Tangible Kingdom, Hugh Halter and Matt Smay
This post is part of Watercooler Wednesday at Ethos - cultural watercooler.
July 2nd, 2008 at 7:14 pm
Great post. It’s so funny, because people used to ask me to coffee (like 5 years ago) and I would say “I don’t drink coffee or tea.” I didn’t get it that they just wanted to hang out. Today, I am right with you…..they better not touch any of my hangouts!
July 3rd, 2008 at 1:36 pm
I never touched a drop until I was 35. Now the addiction is full-blown!
July 3rd, 2008 at 1:45 pm
I’m not an addict, although after I’ve been out of the country, the first place I head to in the airport is Starbucks. There’s something so right, so comforting about ordering your favorite concoction, complete with unique variations, opening the straw, inserting the straw, and then taking that first magnificent sip…I always order a venti, black tea lemonade, sweetened with valencia syrup. It’s nearly intoxicating. Brings a smile to my face. And I’ve got to believe it makes me more approachable because my demeanor is relaxed and my craving is satisfied. I’ve run into the most interesting people in Starbucks. I’m working on trying to make those sbux connections stick a little longer than just the sbux realm.
July 3rd, 2008 at 5:02 pm
That is exactly my preferred summertime drink…although at least here in South Florida, you can’t get valencia anymore. So sad.
July 10th, 2008 at 8:38 am
Coffee has always been a social drink. For many many years it was the center of many political and social discussions in the first coffee houses in Europe.
If people like coffee, and I mean really like it…..they’ll seek out the best cup of coffee, pay what they have to for it, and invite their friends along for the ride!
Lets go for coffee might as well be synonymous with lets get together and chat!
dave
ps. I love coffee!